2021.09.16 20:29 WinifredoI I want to cut off the relationship with my dad but can not
First off all some background informations to get to know this situation I am in. I am currently 18 years old (male) and finished school this year. After this year I am doing a free social year in a school for disabled people. I do not know which job I wanna do so I decided to get with that one year more and maybe I like the social part in it and end up in the social part for a job.
My dad and mother divorced around 10 years ago while I was 8 years old. I did not really realize it and accepted it. I still saw my dad every wednesday and every 2nd sunday. But around 1.5 years ago we stopped with the visit on wednesday. Corona could be a factor but since then he never asked if we wanna see him on every wednesday again.
Around 10 months ago my mother asked my dad while he picked us up from home if he could pay more money for us. I dont know what exactly happened but the money we would get was more now. So he said "Need to look up if that is correct." After that he wrote my mother while we were by him. He did not tell us anything about this. When we came home my mother was in tears cause she does not know what to do with him. He said that my mlther should be grateful that she was able to get the house and he moved out and things like that. Quick note they both payed for the house while they still lived together. Besides that my mother told us that it is like that for several years like that now. That is why she never asked my dad for a raise in the money we would normally get for us. She did not ask because she is not able to get through to him. For me I never had the feeling that my dad was a big asshole. When he picked us up they sometimes screamed at each other but I never really understood what they were saying and did not want to hear it. I am a human that is addicted to harmony. I just a peaceful area around me. So I never asked what happened. When my mother told us all that I wrote him and asked him what the fuck he was thinking while writing it. It ended up this way that he did not want to accept that he made some mistakes and only my mother was guilty. Besides that I decided to not see him anymore for some months. Then my biggest mistake happened. I got weak and decided to say that I was wrong so everything would be fine again. This happened after christmas. I did not see him on christmas. I was mentally drained because I had to solve the problem which 2 parents have now for 10 years/my mother has problems with my dad. He is blind and doesnt see any problems. He does not see them because he thinks all is fine and he is a person you could talk too. You can not talk with him. He denies everything he is not fine with. He blocks everything that does not fit in his point of view.
Yesterday was his birthday. I decided to not congratulate him. I am ill of his "I love my children so much" talk. He always texted me that he loves us because we are his childs. When we found out the problem (the part where my mother was crying on the table when we came home) I found out he wrote my sister which is 14 currently that he misses her so much. I am so disgusted by it that he tries to make her addicted to him. To make her feel like she is wrong and should see him again so his way of treating people does not get found out. Yet the human being I am I can not let go of him. As much as I want to do it. My father is still my father. I want to say fuck you and never want to see him again. He even complains about that when we saw him on wednesdays that he needed to give my sister something to drink when she went to hip hop. Excuse me sir? You are our dad and I think you are able to pay maybe 40 cents for a water bottle that my sister can use for her hip hop training. Besides that my mother gets around 900€ for the both of us. In his opinion my mother uses the money to make herself a good life. I think he does not know how much children cost. The costs for water, clothes, hobbys from us, food, electricity and so on. I am just disgusted and never want to see him again but I am not able to let go off him. Can anyone help me with that or a similiar situation? I dont really have someone I can talk to in this topic. Everyone I know still has parents that are married and live together. I dont wanna ask my mother because she obviously is not taking part in that discussion because she would be really biased by that. I hope anyone reads this and can help me. Have a geat day guys :)
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2021.09.16 20:29 melrosethrifty Should I drop out? (serious life advice needed)
I'm seriously complementing dropping out, and never returning again because my mental health is horrible and I'm being emotionally harmed by the very people I thought were meant to aid me.
It's my first semester in person and so far it's been a shitshow for me because I've been trying to make friends, join clubs, make the best out of my experience here but it feels like no matter how much I try, it almost feels like I'm punished implicitly for attempting to make friends.
I specifically joined a special interest apartment (I couldn't get in the special interest floor but I'm in the same building as them) so that by doing so, it could probably ease the transition and I could have an easier time making friends. Suffice to say, this was probably one of the worst decisions and has actually made things worst for me emotionally.
Yesterday there was a get together for the special interest group and since I'm not in it, I saw other people that aren't in that community but in the building also joined them. I asked some people if it would be okay to join given I'm in the building, a bunch of them just left me on read, two of them answered things along the lines of "fuck off" and one of them blocked me even though on my profile it's very clear I'm a USC student.
I felt extremely embarrassed at myself, I felt like a waste of space. I just wanted to express my sentiment towards them in the building group chat, that they were right: I am a waste of space and tell them that I was going to harm myself because of them, but then a bunch of people started arguing and targeting each other aggressively in the group chat for like over hour but that's besides the point.
Truthfully I've been a wreck even before this incident. I've been randomly breaking down on campus a couple of times in discrete areas where no one will see me. I feel like hurting myself a lot, or admittedly ending my life.
I have severe anxiety and persistent depressive disorder, and I never felt this way in high school because I had large friend group that had me in comfort, made me feel a sense of self-worth, like I meant something to me and them, and in a way that helped me regulate the aforementioned disorders, helped me forget about the vertities of my disorders and I actually felt purpose in my life from being with others.
Here I have nobody to talk to. I've been alone every single day here as a student, without any real friends at the least, and ever since I've moved in the prospect of being alone has exacerbated my disorders for me. I've been feeling extremely anxious, shortness of breath, mental breakdowns in my dorm. It hasn't come to self harming yet, but if I'm being honest I don't think it will be much longer before it gets to that point.
This is why I feel like dropping out. If I don't drop out, and I just continue being miserable, I'm honestly going to end up dead one way or another (and I'm not talking about suicide). I'm just intentionally hurting myself emotionally by being enrolled here. It's worthless trying to make friends, seeing others having the time of their lives in a frat party on Instagram or Snapchat, not being mentioned on missed connections for being a worthless lump of organic matter. I just wanna experience my first party with others, go to the beach with others, for the sake of my mental health, so that I don't succumb to my disorders.
I guess that's too much to ask apparently.
I'm probably going to mention dropping out with my advisor tomorrow anyways. I can't handle the high probability of bring friendless and a loner all year, I'll definitely be dead if that were to happen.
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2021.09.16 20:29 tyhowell1993 2022 Sonata Hybrid Interior Lights won’t turn off!
I own a 2022 Sonata Hybrid and it is a few weeks old and I can not get the dome interior lights to turn off. I have tried every switch and button, but nothing. Anyone have any idea what to do?
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2021.09.16 20:29 Fan4i This warzone is ours, nobody can take our honest and valient rewards
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2021.09.16 20:29 MavDrake Zen time baby.
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2021.09.16 20:29 ThoughtWordAction Covid ABC Facebook, now you know truth about the jab.
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2021.09.16 20:29 K1nderChocolate :c
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2021.09.16 20:29 oeoeoeoeoeoee Listen, HOW HARD CAN IT BE?!?!?
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2021.09.16 20:29 gamersecret2 Razer Blade Pro 17, RTX 3070, i7-11800H, 16GB 1TB (QHD, $2699 - 360Hz, $2799) Razer Blade 17, RTX 3080, 32GB 1TB (i7-11800H, $3299 - i9-11900H, 4K 120Hz, $3699)
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2021.09.16 20:29 NocRoom Hacked: #AORUS RTX 3080 #GAMINGBOX '[s] - On #HiveOS
| thunderbolt crap sucks, so is time to hack it, I have two more coming totaling 4 may end it by end of the year with 8|
Yes is ugly, do I care nope but I do so I did order a few more things like 2u atx rack for the mobo, and the sata power cables going to hack those later that way the power to PCIe ext is powered by within and not have it come out as it does now.
How they doing, perfect! temps better than I thought it would be with the water cooling enclosed GPU
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2021.09.16 20:29 Tamavid ¿?
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2021.09.16 20:29 Vinon Share a bit about the ones you watch most
This is following a comment on another thread.
Id love it if regular viewers of each streamer could share some more about the ones they follow that cant be seen from just clips. In jokes, memes or just general knowledge.
Especially interested to hear from people who watch JP and ID (and Holostars!)
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2021.09.16 20:29 Imyepicgamertag I mean, they aren’t wrong
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2021.09.16 20:29 youtuber00 CHI L'HA DURA LA VINCE! #Outlow_Station #HypersNetwork !prime !sub !subtember
2021.09.16 20:29 read_it_back Family member, new to prosthesis, timelime?
My family member (above knee amputation) is coming home with a prosthesis today, and I am very excited for them, but don't know what to expect. They have had 1 appointment before to try it out and get it adjusted, and was able to stand and take a step or two. I was wondering if some folks would share how long it took them to learn to stand, walk short distances, and go up stairs with their prosthetic leg. I really appreciate any insight!
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2021.09.16 20:29 98a98a89a What if Detective Conan had a case like Johan Liebert?
Johan Liebert from Monster is a criminal unlike any other in all of fiction, but what do you think if we had a case similar to him in Detective Conan? Do you think it would fit in the franchise? I'd personally love if we had a case like that which spanned through multiple arcs, with small details hinting that there's someone manipulating murderers into killing people. Would be chilling and interesting, Conan having to deal with a demon unlike any other he's dealt with — an intelligent monster that leaves virtually no traces of himself, just small hints that there's "someone" but whose existence couldn't even be confirmed.
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2021.09.16 20:29 Eeseltz Preop pain
I have my 4th reconstructive surgery on January 7th. I’ve had three botched surgeries on the same foot. My pain has gotten so bad at work (working in healthcare during covid will do that) that i had to get cortisone yesterday to get my by. Omg that was awful. We put it in the peroneal tendon which is angry cause of me walking and then into my nonunion which was awful. I had so much scar tissue you could hear is breaking up and popping! I hope none of you ever have the issues I’ve had with surgeries
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2021.09.16 20:29 p_yoshio Sharing my home screen, love ir or hate it
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2021.09.16 20:29 TroxEst The flag of the Estonian Evangelical Lutheran Church
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2021.09.16 20:29 ShoulderHuge420 I thought my time had finally come. Turned out to be this half-baked bullshit.
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2021.09.16 20:29 NekoGarou CMV: Sometimes, the art should be separated from the artist.
Sometimes you really enjoy the product(porn, game, movie or etc) of an artist, but don't agree with the views of the artist(anti-vaxx, nationalist, incel or etc). Should you simply stop enjoying the things you love just because you don't agree with the artist?
I believe that we can still enjoy the art of an artist that we don't like/don't agree with.
Or else we will be really unhappy to learn how much things we love came from people we don't like.
I thought it was something most people agree with, but I got push back by the majority for thinking so.
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2021.09.16 20:29 PhilD424 GeeksToken Token ($GST) is a community-focused, decentralized cryptocurrency with a special self-driven cell-division mechanism.
| GeeksToken Token ($GST) is a community-focused, decentralized cryptocurrency with a special self-driven cell-division mechanism. |
While holders are rewarded with reflections from each transaction we also automatically reward community members that help to build the coin.
The first BSC token of its kind. Every $GST holder can invite people to join the coin.
When you send a small amount of $GST to someone, you are their inviter and will be rewarded as they join and invest in the token.
This directly rewards the community members that actively help us grow $GST !
This is an international project with a core Chinese development team working alongside
a UK based crypto team that are helping to build the English-language community, marketing,
and competitions. We truly believe this coin could be the next big thing. We are unique,
focused on rewarding our active community, have international reach, and most importantly .
Seriously tho – we have huge plans for this coin. We are currently promoting with adverts live on PooCoin and …..!
This coin is perfect for TwitteReddit competitions – so if you like Airdrops this coin is going to go crazy in the near future!
TOKENOMICS: A 10% Tax is charged on each transaction: 4% added to LOCKED LP 2% reflections of each transaction go to holders
Now let's get . $GST holders are rewarded automatically when they help to bring others to join.
By sharing just 10k $GST to addresses which have not been invited yet, you will be their inviter.
As thanks for bringing them to our community you'll be rewarded 2.4% distributed to inviter 1.6% distributed
to inviter's inviter Instant rewards building GeeksToken
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2021.09.16 20:29 Few-Scene-7100 Punheta liberada
2021.09.16 20:29 Mindarius Have you ever gone to sleep with a shirt on, and woken up with it off?
Yes, this has happened to me. I also sleep-walked when I was little, and am still known to on occasion whistle/talk in my sleep. I assume this is the cause, but it would be interesting to know how many other people it has happened to.
You go to sleep, for the night, in your bed/equivalent, wearing a shirt, intending to keep a shirt on, and wake up with it no longer on.
I don't think I'll need further clarification than that, but we'll see how it goes.
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2021.09.16 20:29 MrAlexLothar Chips Squad KYC Verification – $CHIPS Presale (IDO) on PinkSale
| ✅KYC by http://idopresales.com |
✅NFT market before launch
"No fake taxes, Yes NFTs!"
✍️have a look
more info⚡️: https://idopresales.com/kyc-service/chips-squad-kyc-verification-chips-presale-ido-on-pinksale/
What is KYC Service? During the KYC process, the identities of the team members and their connection to the project were determined.
Team members provided important documents for these determinations.
What does it mean? KYC mainly aims to protect investors against scam-rug pull.
If team members scam people:
Chips Squad Project
No fake taxes, Yes NFTs!A New Concept to the Existing Reward Tokens which is no more working since they are hard to trade with profit because of their uncompensated high taxes, actually Fake Takes.
Grab your NFT Cards, trade them in the market and multiply your rewards by holding!
CHIPS SQUAD is a BEP20 token with low taxes and beautiful NFTs created by talented designers, expert blockchain devs, and marketed by gurus.
What makes the Chips Squad different from others? The idea is to separate the rewarding system from the main token contract with the NFTs. Holding $CHIPS will give you rewards and on the other hand, you will get more $CHIPS the more and rare NFTs you hold.
You mint your NFT Cards, trade them in the market and multiply your rewards. The mechanics are unique which encourage buy pressure on both NFT Market and $CHIPS.
There will be 99 Rarities with 999 standard NFT Cards and 33 Special Cards which will be minted randomly. The More HP one owns, gets more allocation in the NFT Market Trading Pool which directly gets rewarded in $CHIPS.
For example: 25 Kip Cards with 1HP has the Same Power as 1 Taco Card with 25HP.
NFT Market? The Holders will be able to trade them with each other in the NFT Market. If they want to upgrade their cards, they can sell and buy a more powerful one.
These cards will be available to be minted at the launch giving everybody a fair chance. It is basically like a game of Playing Cards, but without Forcing You to Play some Random “Stupid” Games.
NFT Market will be available from the launch.
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